He popped the question, you've set the date, you've told all your friends and family, now there is just one more thing you need to do before diving into the wedding planning. You need to figure out how to ask your friends to be bridesmaids. There are a couple of steps to this process, and we hope that this article will help you to find the perfect way to ask your best girls to be a part of your big day.
Who to Ask
While you would love to invite anyone and everyone that you know to be your bridesmaid, you do have to limit yourself to a certain number. This is generally discussed with your future husband, that way you both know how many bridesmaids and groomsmen to have. While some do have odd numbers, most couples choose the same amount of groomsmen and brides. Once you have narrowed down how many you are going to have, which can also depend on the type of wedding you will be having, for example, a smaller intimate affair may only have one or two bridesmaids, while a larger ceremony may have 7 or more, you have to decide who to ask. We have a couple of suggestions to help make this decision easier on you.
- Consider yours and his family. Do you have sisters or does he have a sister? If so, your sisters, or his, are generally invited unless there is some family dynamic preventing them from being on good terms. If everyone is a tight family, you definitely need to include them as bridesmaids in your big day.
- Once you've gotten through family, look at your closest friends. Your best friend generally gets invited to be a bridesmaid or the coveted maid of honor position, depending on if you have a sister taking that place already.
- Don't just ask anyone. While your college roommate may have suddenly reached out, if you two were not close or don't have a close connection, do not ask her. You may choose to invite her, but she doesn't need to be a part of the bridal party.
In general, you want people who are going to be supportive, people who you can't imagine not being there standing next to you on your big day. If they happen to know the groom, that's even better, but even if they've never met him, they can still be a bridesmaid, as long as you know these women are going to support you and help you through this stressful moment.
How to Ask
You've decided who to ask, so now it's a matter of how to ask. We've pulled together some of our favorite ways to ask your girls to be a bridesmaid, and this list features a variety of themes, so you can find the best fit for you and your preferences.
- Jewelry. You can never go wrong with giving your future bridesmaid a piece of jewelry with a slip of paper asking her to be your bridesmaid or maid of honor.
- A box of goodies. Add a romantic twist to your bridesmaid proposal with a message in a bottle, asking the big question, a coffee cup with their initials, and some of their favorite candy.
- If your girls love a good glass of wine, order custom wine labels and include one of their favorites.
- If your friends enjoy a challenge, give them a personalized puzzle to put together with the message on it.
- If your friends love a good pun, custom hair tie sets that pop the question for you are a wonderful option.
- Cute t-shirts. You'll want them wearing this for your bachelorette party, so might as well get one customized with their role as bridesmaid or maid of honor.
- Beauty box. Give them everything they need to pamper themselves over the weekend, and include a sweet note or card with the proposal.
- Personalized tote. Your girls will realize what you're asking with a tote filled with chocolate, and personalized with bridesmaid or maid of honor.
- Throw a dinner party with your future bridesmaids and put specialized name tags at their place, so they realize what the dinner is about.
- Pop the question with glitter filled balloons for each of your girls. This is a great addition to an afternoon tea or garden party featuring all your girls.
- For your girls who have a sweet tooth, custom cookies are a delicious way to pop the question. Just take pictures, as the evidence will get eaten up.
- Give her a bridesmaid kit. This gives her everything she may need on your big day, as well as is a cute way to ask her to help you tie the knot.
We hope these tips and suggestions on how to ask your friends to be bridesmaids help you to plan the most perfect bridesmaid proposal.